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Prodigal
 
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| I dont think IC relationships confuse people unless they are daft enough to cross the IC/OC boundary. How can you tell if someones interest is IC or OC - easy, if its time in, its IC.
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Champion
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My opinion on this whole thing is that the only sensible way to play it is to respect the IC/OC boundary. IC relationships stay IC, and OC ones OC. My girlfriend and I play in the same systems (Mael and DUTT), and I very much doubt we'd play a couple - it feels a bit wierd to both of us. Due to our respective preferences for character types, more often that not we end up playing characters that don't get along. It's immense fun, and confuses the hell out of people OC when all they've seen of us is her bitching about having to patch me up after I've got myself riddled with musket balls for the fourth time....
I do think that LARP events are a great place to pull - the last 3 girls I've been with I met at LARP events, and I'd advise anyone single and looking to get around and talking to people after time out! LARPers are generally great people, and you never know, you might get lucky!
Ias
Maelstrom: Then: Regimental Sergeant Major Mdjai, Havocstan Army
Now: "?"
DUTT: Then: Commander J.W. Cranstan, Durholme City Guard
Now: Justice
RL: Ias
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Champion
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It’s not as easy as all that. I know it’s stereotyping somewhat. However, some LARPers are inexperienced in the way of the love. Surprising I know.
Now imagine the scene.
A LARP lady interact with a LARP chappy, flirt a little – harmless IC stuff. The LARP lady does it every day as eye contact greases the wheels of commerce.
Sadly a LARP chappy rarely talks to women. And very, very rarely flirts with them. Has never had a woman talk to him for more than a minute AND this one touched him on the hand.
LARP chappy has never known the touch of a woman… LARP chappy is in love. LARP chappy is writing poetry. LARP gets really creepy.
Poor LARP lady was only being friendly.
IC can turn quickly OOC in certain situations.
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Yeah, I agree with Mikey -- and that's only one example.
As has been pointed out before, what is IC *is also* OOC. It can't be otherwise -- if your character in an LRP game (excluding MET etc.) hits her enemy with a sword (IC action), you, the player, also hit that enemy's player with a phys rep sword (OOC action).
Humans flirt with each other all the time. It's part of standard male/female interaction, even if it's just people you walk past in the street or buy your coffee from. Flirting with someone IC is also OOC flirtation, even if it's not intended to actually lead to anything OOC. Pretending you can keep everything strictly IC is self-deluding and counter-evolutionary, as far as I can see....
You can set strict OOC boundaries that will define exactly what is and isn't allowed in terms of IC relationships, but you have to recognize that flirtation, love, and sex involve massively powerful emotions, hormones, pheromones, etc., which can very easily cause problems in any or all of the parties involved. It's not just the stereotypical geeky, socially inept LRPer bloke who can get messed up by this, or freak other people out, or whatever.
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Otherwise usually crew ("Quite spry & fit, & willing to wear a big costume & run around a lot" -- various event organisers)
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Champion
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Hmm...perhaps I was somwhat over-simplistic. Sure there is some flirtery and emotional content in LARP - there has to be or it's not exactly a 'reaslistic' (I use the word carefully) depiction of human interactions. Thing is, that's IC, and shouldn't be taken as otherwise, no matter how inept or desparate you might be. If you met someon IC and thought "Hey, she's hot" then go and have a chat to her OC after time out, but don't make the mistake of thinking that her IC flirting means she likes you OC - treat it just like you met randomly.
Ias
Maelstrom: Then: Regimental Sergeant Major Mdjai, Havocstan Army
Now: "?"
DUTT: Then: Commander J.W. Cranstan, Durholme City Guard
Now: Justice
RL: Ias
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Prodigal
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| I see Mikey and Ian's points, and agree with Iasus. Yes, that is a potential issue. BUT, it is a potential issue down the pub as well. LRP lady could be friendly to LRP male geek down the pub. She could flirt with him all unknowing, and the same thing could happen. It doesnt preclude that IC and OC relationships can and should be kept separate. Anyway, this thread is devolving into 'are IC relationships a good idea' instead of what it started as...
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| Well I met the gentleman I'm now married to at an lrp event. He was playing a member of the group I was IC in charge of. OC he was realy nice to me one evening when I felt poorly. Details were exchanged so we could meet up as mates as I was in another relationship at the time. Mates became more once I was single. Also I will say and its not bragging that at the point I became single I had a lot of interest from quiet a few single male lrpers who I was freinds with and still am. I tihnk relationships can work out if both parties put effort into getting to know each other not just the persona they see at a game. I certainly know of other people who've met at events and later gone on to get married. Paul Wilder and Juliet for at least one other example.
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| I think it depends to some extent on how well you know people. My local-system character is very sexually charged and forward, rather unlike my normal self. He walked into the bar, came on to people loudly and obviously, pinched arses, got far too close to people, leered, used horribly bad lines, made suggestive comments, and got himself laid with a kender. Because I knew these people (and had OC permission for the arse-pinching), it was alright, and people seem entirely happy with the character. (In fact, he's by far the most fun character I've ever played, and he has a lot more depth to him than just the bits that are relevant to this conversation). However, I'd think long and hard before attempting to play a similar character in a fest system with people I didn't know, certainly without giving an OC warning first, because some people might find it difficult to deal with. It's mainly a matter of courtesy. Basically, if both players are happy with IC relationships and flirting, then go for it. Just don't ever take it OC without actually being OC. That way pain and madness lies. What happens after time out, of course, is your own affair, and I think I made it clear earlier that much is possible if you pick the right people to talk to 
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Cambridge TT: Vladimir Karchev
LT: yet to be decided
RL: Jake
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